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5 Tips to Get Through the Holidays Without Triggering Your Money Blocks (Too Much)

Hey, lovely! Today, I’ve got a very special Christmas blog for you.

We’re talking about five things you can do to make sure that your money blocks aren’t triggered (too much) over the holiday period.

It’s the time of the year that can be very stressful for some people, but it doesn’t have to be because we are Lucky Bees!

I’ve got some really great tips for you today.

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Now, the first thing I want to acknowledge is that the holiday time can be really exciting for some people and for others it can be really stressful and even sad. Don’t beat yourself up over it, either way.

It can be a triggering experience to spend time with your family and loved ones over Christmas. Particularly if you’ve been spending a lot of time working on your personal development and money blocks. You still might be quite vulnerable to other people’s energies.

Here are some tips to get through the holiday period without triggering your money blocks too much.

Have a “canned response”

Tip number one: have a go-to response when your family asks you about potentially triggering topics. This can really apply to questions about your business, so it pays to be prepared ahead of time.

Now you might have someone in your family who constantly asks “Oh, what are you doing with your business again?” Or, “Are you qualified to do that?”

They really kind of make you feel crap.

Here’s the thing, you don’t have to tell them the ins and outs of your business, you don’t have to tell them how many clients you have, you don’t have to tell them anything you don’t want to.

Have a really simple go-to response. It can be something like, “Hey, it’s doing great. Thanks so much for asking.” As simple as that!

Now my family used to ask me about my books all the time. Because to them, a book meant a real business, even though a book was just such a small part of my business.

I would start to go, “Well actually a book is just one overall part of my marketing plan. I actually have a lot more in my business and blah, blah, blah.” I could just see their eyes glaze over or it would lead into more uncomfortable awkward conversations about, “Oh, you help people with money. How does that work?”

I just decided my go to response was just going to be, “Oh it’s going great. Thank you so much for asking.”

Easier said than done, I know.

But the thing is, your business isn’t any of their business and if telling them all the ins and outs leads to some awkward stuff or makes you feel crap about yourself, then, you don’t have to do it.

Change the subject

Which leads me to tip number two: get really good at changing the subject.

Now remember that game – I don’t know if you ever played it as a kid, but you’d take turns asking each other questions and you weren’t allowed to say yes or no, you had counter with a question.

I got really, really good at that and now you can do the same thing over the holidays.

Instead of answering all the questions about your business or about money or anything that makes you feel stressed, get really good at changing the subject.

You can say, “Oh I love this dip what’s in it?”

Completely bypass what they’ve just asked you. Or, “Yeah, it’s doing great. How about you? What’s new with you?”

People love talking about themselves, so just keep on putting it back to them!

Change the subject again and again. Make it a game to see how long you can avoid their questions!

By the end of it, they’ll feel great because people love talking about themselves and they’ll be like, “She’s such a great conversationalist.” And, it won’t lead you down the path of talking about things that you don’t want to or that could be potentially awkward.

Be clear about what you want

Tip number three is is all about presents.

If presents trigger you, there are a couple of ways around it. You could just straight out ask people what you want. Direct them, don’t just assume and don’t make it a test of their love.

“Well if they love me, my parents will finally get me the present I’ll love.”

No, don’t test them.

Just tell them what you want.

That’s a really sure way of triggering all your old money stuff is to continue something has triggered you in the past. If you know that your parents are terrible at buying presents and they’ve always forgotten what you like and they’ve always forget your favorite colors, don’t test them again as a test to see how much they “love you.”

Just tell them.

Say, “Hey, Mom and Dad, just in case you need some guidance on what to get me for Christmas this year, here’s a link.”

Or, “You know what? I would love an amazing gift voucher.”

Make it really easy and just direct them.

Don’t worry about if people don’t buy you the right stuff, just tell them.

You don’t have to keep presents you don’t like

Which brings me to my fourth point. If you get presents you don’t like and it does trigger old memories, you don’t have to keep them.

You can say thank you graciously but you do not have to keep them.

You can go straight from their house and drop it off at the charity store.

Someone else is going to love that. If you get presents a bit before Christmas and you’ve opened it and you don’t like it, re-wrap it and give it to a charity.

A lot of stores at Christmas have wishing trees that you can put gifts under for other people. Someone else will love that.

Just because someone’s gifted you something doesn’t mean you need to make a shrine of it in your house and keep it forever.

It’s okay and totally fine for you to declutter stuff that doesn’t make you feel good and stuff that’s not part of your first class life.

What happens if all of this doesn’t work?

What if your uncle Bob’s like, “Hey, I heard about your business. Sounds like you’re ripping people off.”

Or you get a terrible present and you think, “For fuck’s sake. Why won’t they ever buy something that I’ll love?”

Or you just feel attacked from all angles and you’re feeling terrible about yourself.

Well tip number five is for you.

Go do some EFT – emotional freedom technique – otherwise known as tapping.

Now this has saved me many times in situations where I’ve felt bad about myself. If you’re at your family’s house and you’re feeling triggered go into the bathroom and do a little bit of tapping.

“Even though I have these feelings, even though my family are annoying, even though nobody loves me and buys me presents that I like, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.”

Then that way you are responsible for your own feelings. It might just be a temporary fix until you can get home, but that’s okay. Just tap the F out of all of those feelings.

We’re winding down now for the rest of the year, so I want to say from my family to yours, thank you so much for watching and reading all of my blogs this year.

This might even be your first one, and you’re like, “Who is this chick?”

But thank you so much for watching my blogs.

It’s been an absolute pleasure. I hope you get everything that you want under your tree and if you don’t, I give you permission to go out and buy them for yourself.

You’re responsible for creating your first class life and no one else can do it for you! Give yourself that gift!

Merry Christmas and happy holidays!


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