You know that horrible, horrible feeling when someone rains on your parade?

That deflation?

There you are feeling good about life. You're doing your abundance affirmations. You're making upgrades, you're manifesting money and your business is going great. 

Then someone bursts your bubble and you come crashing down.

Often this comes from the people who are closest to you. Sometimes their money blocks derail you.

The good(ish) news is that it’s normal and it happens to everybody. 

I’ve never met an entrepreneur who has 100% cheerleaders in their family and friends. 

The bad news is this isn't just a one and done thing. You're going to find that during your money journey, this will come up again and again. 

How to deal with a negative partner, friend, family member

I remember this one time... 

I’d bought some antique furniture online and the guy who was delivering it said, "Nice house; what does your husband do?...”

I was feeling really happy and proud and I told him it was my business and he said, "You're quite the confident young lady, aren't you?" 

It wasn’t negative, but I came crashing down to earth that day.

Do you recognize any of these? 

Maybe your best friend said, "Oh, you charge that much?" 

Or your mum asked, "Oh, are you really qualified to do that?" 

Or your uncle Bob came up with a gem, "Oh, I remember when you pooed your pants at the Christmas party and now look at you. How do you think you can make money doing this?" 

All of this can feel so challenging.

I don't want any of this negative talk to derail you or become an excuse for you to stall.  

Here are my tips for keeping your money mindset vibe high 

#1. Surround yourself with people who can celebrate and hold your success. 

Get validation from appropriate sources. Choose a really supportive coach, ensure you have peers at the same level so they're not triggered by your success. 

Gather a cheerleader community around you. 

Money Bootcamp is perfect for this – there’s such an amazing supportive community. 

We celebrate people making their first dollar and those reaching their first million with the same level of enthusiasm.

You might need to upgrade the people around you. 

Jim Rohn, famously stated that you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. 

Your income is the average of the five people you spend the most time with. 

It doesn't mean you have to get rid of your friends. 

When it comes to business and money, surround yourself with people who are in the game with you. 

You don't have to try and get validation from your dad like you did as a kid. 

What do you do when someone goes out of their way to be a dick to you? 

In my first year of business I experienced this, when a friend who would say narky things to me.

Firstly, it’s your responsibility to protect yourself, especially if you are at a stage of business where you're feeling vulnerable.

At the start of your business, you're like a newborn baby. No bad stuff has happened yet. You're innocent and pure and you might feel really vulnerable. 

Be careful who you talk to about your fledgling business idea. 

Other times you might feel really vulnerable are just before you publish your book, or do a big launch or uplevel in your business in any way.

Want to read about the most common times when money blocks can come up in your business? Check out this article.

Work on your money mindset to crowd out those negative voices. 

#2. Try the bean dipping technique! 

This is simply a fun way of deflecting awkward conversations. 

For example, you're at a party and your uncle Bob asks you a really inappropriate question like when you're going to have a baby or how much your business is making?

You can say, "Oh! Great, thanks. Would you like some bean dip?" Turn the conversation around.

It's not a literal bean dip. You may not have access to bean dip at that exact moment! 

Try, “Where are you going on holiday?" "Oh, what a funny question. How's your business going?" 

This always works because people love talking about themselves, so you can always deflect it back. 

It’ll get easier over time. 

#3. Write a book. It doesn’t matter if it’s long or short – it can be a little ebook. 

Then you can always say "I'm a writer, I've got a book." 

Writing a book is just such a great way to deflect questions. It’ll really help with those nosy questions that come up around your business and how much money you're making.

And to finish, know that It's safe for you to make money, even when you're surrounded by negative people. 

It’s your time and you’re ready for the next step,

xx Denise